Category Archives: introspection, reflection & identity

Hot For Humility

Confession: I may be shallow from time to time.

If you have read this blog before you know that not only do I want to be Giselle Bunchen, or marry Ryan Reynolds, I love obsessing over  magazines and fashion blogs.

SoulPancake (pg.72) asks it’s readers to list 5 non-physical traits that turn you on.

Meow.

I decided to enlist some guest-bloggers again to see what they think makes a dime that is top of the line, besides a cute face, small waist, and a big behind. Below are some of the responses I received…

Thank you to everyone who participated, I appreciate you sharing! To everyone else reading this, please comment below with the traits that flip your flapjack ;)

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Mute Your Mouth

Have your ever had a little sister? One that will NOT stop TALKING ever? It’s like a constant hum of nonsense shaking your cerebellum?

That is what comes to mind when I (fondly) think of my chatty little sister, Cara. So when I heard that she would be participating in a vow of silence to benefit Invisible Children, I was thrilled by the prospect of peace and quiet, and inspired by her dedication to promoting awareness.

SoulPancake (pg.126) asks it’s readers to:

Cease your chatter. Don’t speak for an entire day. Just Listen.

Below is Cara’s reflection on her experience of mouth-muting. I hope you find her as witty and thought-provoking as the usual banter I post. Brilliance may just run in the family…

Saying that I like to talk is an understatement. I’ve been known to concentrate deeply on inanimate objects when trying to restrain myself from compulsively interrupting. Whether you chose to view this as a positive trait of expression or simply an annoyance, I consider it a significant part of my character. So when I took on the challenge to stay silent for 25 hours, the most common response was that of amused disbelief.

 But this isn’t about me. I chose to speak out without speaking for Invisible Children, an organization dedicated to ending civil war in Uganda and helping its people develop safe, healthy, and stable lifestyles. This war is considered one of the most neglected humanitarian crises to date, having lasted nearly 25 brutal years being fought by children abducted from their homes.  Invisible Children’s commitment to encouraging development and peace within the Ugandan communities is surely worth the loudest silence possible. 

Mini-Waffle-Maker

To be completely honest, I never knew “Mute Your Mouth” was a SoulPancake challenge. I began my silence at 7 PM on April 24that home with my family. At first it was simple enough, and even relaxing. I took the opportunity to have some quiet time to myself and get a good night’s rest—thankfully, I don’t have a habit of sleep talking. Lasting until 8 PM the next day, however, proved a more difficult feat. Many others I knew participating would break their silences to ask a question or speak to teachers, moves I considered cheating. Proudly I went about my day sporting a sign proclaiming my vow of silence and handing out information cards to explain my cause.

I must admit the perspective I gained was both refreshing and frustrating. I could sit back and listen to the world around me, or just mind my own business without interruptions. Then again, I also couldn’t ask for a medium skim iced coffee, please, or apologize to the underclassman that I accidentally knocked into. A brief lesson in sign language allowed me to say “Thank you!”, but no more. Teachers and peers alike congratulated and encouraged participating students as we bonded together in shared silence.

  April 25th, 6 PM. I cracked. Going through classes without speaking is one thing. Running a rehearsal for a musical without speaking? I’m surprised I lasted so long. Yes, I broke my silence early, and no, I was not able to attend the Break the Silence event in New York City, but man, was I LOUD.

 Technically, the experiment was a failure. Falling just two hours short of the Invisible Children goal and a pathetic one hour for Soul Pancake, at the moment I was pretty disappointed with myself. Yet by doing something as simple as committing myself to silence for an entire day, I was able to participate in raising awareness for a wonderful cause. And that’s something we all can be proud of.

So now I’ll ask you, fellow waffle makers—will YOU mute your mouth?


Isn’t she the best? Thank you Cara for your karma contribution (the universe is sure to thank you too), and please feel free to mute your mouth again at any time =)

Cara & I - Boboli Gardens - Florence, Italy - Spring 2010

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Trivial Pursuits

SoulPancake Asks:

List 3 meaningless, trivial things that distract you from your master plan.

1. Fashion Blogs

The ManRepeller, The Blonde Salad, Cashmere and Cupcakes, I CAN’T GET ENOUGH.

On my tight student budget which barely fills my gas tank, never will I ever be able to afford the beautiful pieces these bloggers showcase. Balenciaga bags, layering leather, sheer blouses : It’s like the best window shopping ever. Will I ever actually purchase a bubblegum blazer to go with my leather shortsback bone heels and giant Karen Walker shades? Of course not. But a girl can dream (and procrastinate for hours).

Fellow blogger and friend Bailey created Chasing Anna to fulfill her fashion obsession, check it out =)

2. Caffeine Fixes

When I wake up, all I want is coffee.When I need it very little will get in my way until I have it. In the dead of winter at 6:30am before the sun is even up I will crawl out of my comforter cocoon just to venture downstairs on to the freezing tile tundra of the kitchen to get my fix.

Dramatic? Fine.

It is just dawning on me now that previous boyfriends have come bearing large Starbucks lattes as apologies…

3. Nail Polish

I have a problem with painting and chipping my nails. I can’t stop doing either.

This week alone I have had three different color changes (Obviously I do it myself, if I got manicures that often I’d have no money for my coffee, or to save up for the clothes I’ll lust after but never buy, duh). My picks for spring? Essie’s Haute as Hello, or A French Affair, maybe even Chanel Mimosa, if you’re feeling saucy.

My keyboard and blackberry are both splattered with polish because I’m impatient.  It really is time consuming if you think about it, but I convince myself that as I type they dry faster. Sooooo… if I paint, I must type, and if I must type, I will blog, and if I will blog, then karmawaffles will be made, everyone wins!

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What is Your Weird?

rit·u·al [rich-oo-uhl] –noun

1. any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed in a set manner, religious or otherwise
2. a prescribed codes of behavior regulating social conduct, as exemplified by the raising of one’s hat or the shaking of hands in greeting.
3. Psychiatry. a specific act, as hand-washing, performed repetitively to a pathological degree, occurring as a common symptom of obsessive-compulsive neurosis.
(courtesy of: http://www.soulpancake.com/post/1215/whats-your-weird.html)

SoulPancake asks us…

List 3 of your rituals that set you apart from the rest.

When I saw this question I thought back to an old Sex and The City episode, where Carrie realizes she has certain rituals she feels uncomfortable performing in front of her boyfriend who had recently moved in. She dubs these, “secret single behaviors,” and investigates. Listen to what she finds…

Moral: It’s weird, but it feels great!

After some thought these are some of my ritual behaviors:

1. Whenever  I go into a bathroom  I always lock the door.

1b. If that bathroom has a shower, I always look behind the curtain.

2. I only eat food at their proper temperatures: Cold pizza? Warm milk? I’ll pass.

3. I paint my nails constantly, and as soon as there is a chip I have to chip off all the polish on that nail, and then all the polish on that hand.


See? 3 down, 7 to go.

I showed you my “weird,” now show me yours…

What are your rituals?

Yours in waffles,
Alyssa

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How Do You “Carpe Diem”?

Some incredibly cruel employee of Marist College Career Services devised a plan to irritate all seniors year after year, without fail, by strategically placing graduation countdown clocks throughout campus.

Today those clocks have reached 100.

(I think the best senior class fundraiser would involve this countdown-loving individual, hot lava, and a dunk tank, but I digress…)

The past three years of school I had disregarded these timepieces, thinking myself lucky to be unconcerned with their sick game. Now it’s February 10th of my final semester, and my time here seems so brief.

The December before last I had really hit a wall in my life, a deep rut, for lack of a better term. My “carpe diem” moment? Studying abroad in Florence, Italy. The places I went, the people I met, the marvels I saw, and the new start I was allotted really helped me put living into perspective and taught me how to seize the day.

Carneval in Venice? Prague for the weekend? Dance on the beach in Barcelona? Hike Cinque Terre? Catch a sunset at Port de Nice? Three Five scoops of gelato?

C A R P E   D I E M .

 

With this finite number staring me in the face, taunting me with its ticking and toking,  I look to fictional characters for life guidance, a winning approach, I know.

Andy Dufrense:

Mr.Keating:

If my words haven’t inspired you, hopefully those of the leading men in my two of all-time favorite films did.


SO WAKE UP.

How do you live? How do you carpe diem?

 

 

 

Yours in waffles,
Alyssa

My SoulPancake Inspiration: http://www.soulpancake.com/post/1233/how-do-you-seize-the-day.html

My lava-dunk-tank Inspiration:

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